Boundaries or barriers

Human beings are social animals and cannot survive being a loner all the time. The reason is because we thrive for growth at every point of life. From the first heavy sigh we make while waking up in the morning to the final exhausted sigh we make in the night, we all have gone through a day of time where each event that affected us has made us a different version to what we were since yesterday which although might be a hair thin evolution. The one thing that has evolved drastically since the inception of the sapiens is boundaries. Boundaries is such a beautiful concept that cannot just be wrapped up in one discussion for all the different distinctions within it. The motive of this blog is to skim through those very concepts with a ting of sensibility. We can state a few philosophical facts and quote a few great people and wrap this discussion up but what would that make this brief read? That same old cliche we all go through where the same thing we know is repeated in a fancier way with better vocabulary.

It would be too silly to actually define what a boundary is, so I will rather try to define it with my own perspective. Boundaries in real life have different purposes and personas of their own depending on the situation we are put in. In the stone age, people had no civilization and the only real intent of a boundary was to seperate themselves from external environment like rain, sun or even the cold weather. As people have evolved and understood how a society must operate, we now built them as a real world object and gave them a purpose. Slowly, as people's intellect on the interpersonal side has developed, we started to build virtual boundaries and then formed the inception of respecting each other's boundaries and privacy. That is an incredible milestone that we had reached and made so much more sense until done healthily and for good reasons like recouping oneself or getting a better understanding of ourself. 

When people try to leverage these boundaries to escape from a situation is when things go out of hand and spirals down to a chaotic situation which could either damage the bond between people or could also deteriorate the kind of person that one is personally. Some people under the guise of these boundaries never face the fears, judgements or even doubts they had on their mind which later on determine the kind of decisions one makes in life. Some others are just too empathetic by nature and add that up to the already over-thinking mind, that right there is a recipie for a nuclear explosion within one's head. These empathetic individuals are constantly churning out simulations to understand why someone had done something and in that process they analyse so much that their own individual self and what they want gets washed away. I just explained it simply using a few words but that is what is called being toxic to oneself where the constant rush of who is feeling what and why will take over and kill the basic why and what do I feel right now? 

Does that mean empathy and boundaries are really bad? Not at all, we all need both of them surely but the balance should never be tipped either side too much because a slight difference can totally change the direction of evolution one takes. Although hair thin, each evolution is a junction point to connect to the better being of yourself that the future holds. What I just stated is obvious stuff with glorified words but the point is that every action has an impact on the overall picture of evolution. Nobody has enough patience, time, money or love to spare for anyone or anything. Why not be a beacon of hope in this already convoluted and toxic place by just lowering your boundary by a few inches to help better a bond with someone and also grow personally.