BEYOND THE LIMITATIONS OF YOUR PERCEPTIONS

We live in quite a sophisticated society which is most often run by unwritten rules. Let’s consider for example a physically disabled man, the societal norms ask us to sympathize with him and treat him well. But for that person that will seem a bit saddening as they are kind of in a way being too reliant on you and discriminated, even though that isn’t completely true. All they ever wanted was to be treated the same way as is everyone. Your sympathy might be a culmination of all your kindness but that is still something that they don’t appreciate.

So, you shouldn’t always be doing the things that people are supposed to, but we should start considering people’s wishes, consents, and intuitions before we act.  People do a lot of things in haste and often aren’t proud of the actions they’ve taken then. Once we start looking at people from their own perspectives, life starts seeming a bit more sorted and logical than before because we now are considering what people did and why they did it and we place ourselves in it and realize we wouldn’t have done any different and get reassured about our own life along with empathizing them.

People often find or assign different roles to different people in their life. They spend and enjoy their time with some set of people, and they talk about all this enjoyment with a few other people. On the surface, the ones whom they spend that time with seem closer to them. But the harsh truth is that the ones they confess to are who they are truly being themselves and that is unfiltered; they can tell anything and everything to them and not be worried about it because they’ve already established that trust in them. Often it's quite difficult to find them both in the same person. If you do so, please treasure them, they are a rarity.

The ones who are on the listening side are often the ones suffering majorly because of two reasons. 

1. They also want to have that joyful experience that was narrated to them with that person but it's then just too complicated and impossible because the ones on the listening side never are told that they are important in that person’s life. When you are not close, don’t expect things to work according to your expectations.

2. They are but a secret dairy that knows all your secrets and no one knows of its existence.

My point is that what seems to be true isn’t even near accurate of the actual truth. The rules were written for us to follow but we often find appreciation, love, and comfort by abiding and leaning towards the unwritten rules. Situations we don’t look forward to might come up and rather than being devastated about it then, it’s better if we start looking at the world in the third-person view. I call this the alien view; it is in a way looking at the world away from it with a different ideology just like an alien. I’m not asking you to abandon all your feelings, just abandon the ones that’ll depress you or make you feel miserable because they are anyways not worth your time.